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You can also tweet your question on my Twitter page!
Dear Rahbinah,
Will anything romantic occur between me and John D?
Hoping for Love, Salem, MA
Dear Hoping for Love,
After consulting the Tarot, I see that there is definitely a mutual attraction, but it is mainly on the physical level. There is danger in getting caught up in lust as evidenced by the Devil card. One or both of you may be emotionally and/or financially dependent in this relationship. John seems like a sweet, caring and thoughtful guy, but he may be the jealous, controlling type. He is apt to be overly emotional. Conflict is certain and there is the potential for mistreatment and even abuse. The relationship will move quickly, it may be exciting at the onset, but soon distrust, suspicion, disillusionment, and discord will set in. You may ultimately feel trapped. You will most likely end up with hurt feelings or a broken heart. You will try to move on, but he will try to keep you in his web. He will try to win you back with his charm and wit. He may try to woo you with promises of marriage, love letters, and gifts. But beware, there are strings attached to these promises and gifts. You will need to stick to your guns, hold firm and be on guard.
If you are just interested in a sexual relationship with John, I would still say beware because he seems to have the tendency to even get emotionally caught up in relationships that are based on casual sex. This is a call for you to use your intellect and really examine John’s character before deciding to get into a relationship with him. Trust your instincts. This is a situation where you have to place your mind over your physical desires. Most of the cards were reversed when I pulled them. To me this points to the overall negativity of this possible union. If you are the adventurous type and you like riding an emotional rollercoaster, go for it. If you are the type who prefers to play it safe, I say, forget about it.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
Dear Rahbinah
My most recent relationship ended when I found out that my boyfriend was smoking crack. That was over two years ago. When do you see me meeting my true life partner, one who is committed to us?
Seeking Life Partner
(Actual name witheld for confidentiality purposes), Dayton, OH
Dear Seeking Life Partner,
I consulted the Tarot using the Celtic Cross spread. Here is the result:
1. The Center—The situation at hand
Knight of Cups
You may be yearning for romantic love. You would like to follow your dreams and live a life that you have always imagined. You are seeking a sensitive, caring, tenderhearted mate who will share in your dreams. Try to be realistic in your search for your life partner. Right now you are in a period of introspection where you will discover what truly brings you fulfillment.
2. Crossing—What you are facing or obstacles to overcome
Knight of Wands
Change is at hand. You may be gearing up for travel soon. It is quite possible that you will meet a charming man in the course of your travels. Your challenge is to be confident, daring, and adventurous. It wouldn’t hurt to spruce up your physical appearance as well. You are facing a time of high energy, fun and enthusiasm. It is likely that you will have a passionate fling that is based mainly on sex.
3. Basis—foundation of the situation
Ace of Pentacles
The Ace of Pentacles points to you needing a helping hand. Most likely you are struggling with finances. You need to be able to trust again. You want tangible results. You want security and solidarity. You want a new beginning with firm foundations. Basically, you want to start living the good life. The Ace of Pentacles card also points to a need for you to be realistic about your goal in finding a life partner.
4. Recent Past
4 of Cups
In the recent past you were jaded, apathetic and uninspired. You may have been completely bored with your life. You did not know exactly what your next step in life would be. You may have been depressed and disinterested in enjoying life.
5. Possible Outcome
5 of Pentacles--Reversed
There’s a possibility that you will receive some help and support from someone. If you are in need of financial help, it may possibly be on the way.
6. Near Future
2 of Wands
In the near future you may begin a new relationship, but you will be left waiting for growth. The relationship may not be long-term, but it will open you up to new possibilities. You will find the power and confidence to take a risk on finding your life partner. There is a need for your to be bold, courageous and fearless. You may be left waiting for a reply from a new love interest. Make sure that you remain flexible and open to a variety of potential partners.
7. The Self—How you contribute to the situation
Judgment
You are experiencing a rebirth. You are called to make some drastic changes in your life. These changes need to begin with determining what truly brings you fulfillment. You may find yourself doing things you would have never considered before. This may deal with the type of man you are accustomed to choosing. The Judgment card can also deal with a need to break from past conditioning. If you are someone who puts everything into your relationships to the point where you deny your own needs, then this card may be a call for you to break with the belief that you have to be in a relationship in order to feel whole.
8. The Environment—What is surrounding you or how others see you
Ace of Wands
You are surrounded by opportunities to create a new life. You can be inspired by your surroundings. Others see you as embarking upon a new chapter in your life. There are many eligible bachelors around you. You just have to open your eyes. But keep in mind, that not all that is available is good for you. You should have no problem attracting a new mate.
9. Hopes and Fears
10 of Cups
Hopes: You hope that you will be able to achieve domestic bliss by finding your life partner. The 10 of Cups card deals with marriage, family solidarity, good times and marital bliss.
Fears: You fear that you will not be able to find true happiness due to lack of a life partner.
10. Outcome
Queen of Swords
This is an indicator that you will ultimately be a single woman for some time to come. It may be for the remainder of your life. Do not be dismayed by this outcome for the Queen of Swords is a single woman who operates from a position of strength and personal fulfillment. She is content to be alone, yet she is surrounded by friends, family and associates. You are ultimately your own life partner.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
Dear Rahbinah,
I am in a dead-end job with no end in sight. I am trying to find a new job, but I feel that I can't hold out at my present job much longer. I work in a very hostile environment with a lot of rabid sales people. I am not a salesperson. I simply support the sales department with administrative tasks. I feel like I am dying inside whenever I am at work. Furthermore, I am not cut out to sit in a cubicle all day surrounded by maniacs. I want to quit--even before I have a new job. It is a matter of preserving my sanity which I value over a meager paycheck. I don't think it's wise to quit a job without another to replace it, but I don't know how much more I can take. When I talk to my friends and family they basically tell me to deal with it and that I should be grateful that I even have a job in this economy. They basically are telling me to suck it up and deal. I'm afraid that when I get my hands on my income tax refund, I am going to bail even if I don't have another job to go to.
In Desperate Need of a New Job,
Mary K Tucson, AZ
Dear Mary,
So many people believe that one should not bemoan their employment situation and just make due until something better comes along--especially in tight economies. I say hogwash. You should never settle for a job that you find utterly stifling and stress inducing. A job isn't worth an exorbitant amount of stress that can eventually lead to disease, weight-gain, depression and even an early death. It's important for people to try find careers doing something that they love. Money should be secondary. It's one thing to take a part-time job to make ends meet, but to devote day in and day out, 40 + hours a week doing something you absolutely detest is out of the question. There will always be someone who is willing to work along side rabid sales people, but you my dear Mary are obviously different. That's why I love astrology so much. It can help a person pinpoint their optimal career path.
It is possible to survive if you quit your job without securing a new one first. The key is thinking outside of the box. What skills or talents do you have that you can turn into a mini business? Do you have roommates that can provide a buffer while you are free from employment. Is moving back in with Mom and Dad an option? Have you considered returning to school to earn a degree in a field that is aligned with your nature? The best advice I can give in this situation is to try to cover yourself on the back end as much as possible. Start casting a big net as far as non-corporate jobs are concerned. The calls will start coming in before you know it. Don't hold out for the ideal job, just try to find something that is less aggravating than your current position. And remember, quitting your job without a replacement is not always the best solution, but it can be quite liberating--exhilarating even! Don't let fear of the unknown keep you in a miserable predicament.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah, astrologer/spiritual advisor
Tim wants a Quickie
Dear Rahbinah,
i want to have sex wth an old friend should i contact her?
Tim, Pasadena, CA
Dear Tim,
It’s funny you should ask this question right now as Mars and Venus travel through Scorpio, the sign of bonding and shared emotions which includes sexual relations. You probably have a lot of pent up sexual energy that requires an immediate release at this point in time, hence your question.
To answer your question a horary chart was cast for the day and time that I received your question. This horary is very telling in that your house of sexual desire is full of activity with the Moon (representing you), Venus and Mars residing therein. You are also represented by Mercury which is currently in Libra, the sign of relationships. Mercury is in the house of your home life and emotional needs which points to your need for social interaction to fill an emotional void. Your friend is represented by Mars. Mars deals with sexual desire. The object of a horary chart is to find aspects between the significators (the planets that represent you and your friend). In this horary, there are no aspects between the Moon and Mars or Mercury and Mars. So this means that it is probably not a good idea to contact your friend for sex because there is a good chance that nothing will come of it. Saturn conjunct Mercury reinforces this condition for Saturn deals with delays, blockages and doses of reality. In your case, it may just mean wait. Saturn also deals with decorum and proper etiquette so you may want to consider approaching your friend on a non-sexual level first. With Capricorn, ruled by Saturn on the house cusp of sexual expression there will most likely be a delay in immediate gratification. You may certainly face some kind of resistance. With Mars, your friend’s planet in Scorpio she may be immersed in activities which require her complete devotion. This may explain why she may be slow or inconsistent in her response to your advances. Don’t take it personal, it just may not be the right time.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
i want to have sex wth an old friend should i contact her?
Tim, Pasadena, CA
Dear Tim,
It’s funny you should ask this question right now as Mars and Venus travel through Scorpio, the sign of bonding and shared emotions which includes sexual relations. You probably have a lot of pent up sexual energy that requires an immediate release at this point in time, hence your question.
To answer your question a horary chart was cast for the day and time that I received your question. This horary is very telling in that your house of sexual desire is full of activity with the Moon (representing you), Venus and Mars residing therein. You are also represented by Mercury which is currently in Libra, the sign of relationships. Mercury is in the house of your home life and emotional needs which points to your need for social interaction to fill an emotional void. Your friend is represented by Mars. Mars deals with sexual desire. The object of a horary chart is to find aspects between the significators (the planets that represent you and your friend). In this horary, there are no aspects between the Moon and Mars or Mercury and Mars. So this means that it is probably not a good idea to contact your friend for sex because there is a good chance that nothing will come of it. Saturn conjunct Mercury reinforces this condition for Saturn deals with delays, blockages and doses of reality. In your case, it may just mean wait. Saturn also deals with decorum and proper etiquette so you may want to consider approaching your friend on a non-sexual level first. With Capricorn, ruled by Saturn on the house cusp of sexual expression there will most likely be a delay in immediate gratification. You may certainly face some kind of resistance. With Mars, your friend’s planet in Scorpio she may be immersed in activities which require her complete devotion. This may explain why she may be slow or inconsistent in her response to your advances. Don’t take it personal, it just may not be the right time.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
Dear Rahbinah,
I recently met a guy who is a Gemini. He seems like someone I wouldn't mind dating, but I've been hearing so many negative things about Gemini men. Can they really be that bad?
G Washington
Dear G,
Gemini men have gotten a bad rap for being unfaithful and non-committal. However, this can be said of a lot of men regardless of their Sun sign—especially in this day and age. While Gemini certainly does not have a monopoly on philandering behavior, there are however, a few things to keep in mind when dating a man of this zodiacal persuasion. First, Gemini is a dual sign, meaning there are two distinct identities at work. With Gemini, there may be a light and easy going demeanor alongside a more serious and argumentative persona. The two sides co-exist peacefully within Gemini individuals. It’s the non-Geminis who have a problem with it. Another thing to remember is that Gemini requires a great deal of external stimuli or he will easily become bored and develop a bad case of wanderlust. A woman cannot be a wet blanket so to speak and expect to keep a Gemini’s attention. She must possess a sense of humor and be visually stimulating as well. Of all the signs, a Gemini male will take notice when a woman changes her hairstyle, her style of dress or some other aspect of herself. He likes a woman who will keep him guessing. Don’t ever be too predictable or you just may lose him. He will be off trying to figure out some other woman. Third, Gemini men possess a high degree of emotional detachment for the most part. This is the part that women who are clingy or highly emotional can’t stand. They mistake this detachment for being heartless and aloof. It’s not that they lack sensitivity and warmth; Gemini men are more cerebral and intellectual than emotional. They are more so thinkers than they are feelers.
Knowing these few things and not forgetting them will make life with a Gemini man mentally stimulating instead of emotionally jarring.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
I recently met a guy who is a Gemini. He seems like someone I wouldn't mind dating, but I've been hearing so many negative things about Gemini men. Can they really be that bad?
G Washington
Dear G,
Gemini men have gotten a bad rap for being unfaithful and non-committal. However, this can be said of a lot of men regardless of their Sun sign—especially in this day and age. While Gemini certainly does not have a monopoly on philandering behavior, there are however, a few things to keep in mind when dating a man of this zodiacal persuasion. First, Gemini is a dual sign, meaning there are two distinct identities at work. With Gemini, there may be a light and easy going demeanor alongside a more serious and argumentative persona. The two sides co-exist peacefully within Gemini individuals. It’s the non-Geminis who have a problem with it. Another thing to remember is that Gemini requires a great deal of external stimuli or he will easily become bored and develop a bad case of wanderlust. A woman cannot be a wet blanket so to speak and expect to keep a Gemini’s attention. She must possess a sense of humor and be visually stimulating as well. Of all the signs, a Gemini male will take notice when a woman changes her hairstyle, her style of dress or some other aspect of herself. He likes a woman who will keep him guessing. Don’t ever be too predictable or you just may lose him. He will be off trying to figure out some other woman. Third, Gemini men possess a high degree of emotional detachment for the most part. This is the part that women who are clingy or highly emotional can’t stand. They mistake this detachment for being heartless and aloof. It’s not that they lack sensitivity and warmth; Gemini men are more cerebral and intellectual than emotional. They are more so thinkers than they are feelers.
Knowing these few things and not forgetting them will make life with a Gemini man mentally stimulating instead of emotionally jarring.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
Hi Rahbinah,
I am an Aquarius and a person that I am dealing with is also an Aquarius. I recently moved across the country and I would like to know if a long distance relationship would work?
PopTart
Dear Pop Tart,
Of all the signs that could successfully manage a long distance relationship, your sign, Aquarius would be the best at it. This is because those born under the sign of Aquarius in general, do not possess a strong need for emotional closeness and intimacy. Aquarians make much better friends than lovers in general so a long-distance relationship may work out fine. Aquarians also need intellectual stimulation so as long as there is some degree of communication between the two of you, the relationship has a chance of working out. Ultimately, the success of your relationship will depend upon each of your individual needs. If you or your partner require face to face contact or physical displays of affection on a regular basis then this relationship may be plagued with difficulties. If one or the both of you have issues with trust, there will also be challenges.
It's a good idea to initiate a discussion on what you both need in a relationship in order to feel fulfilled so that you will not be wasting each other's time.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
I am an Aquarius and a person that I am dealing with is also an Aquarius. I recently moved across the country and I would like to know if a long distance relationship would work?
PopTart
Dear Pop Tart,
Of all the signs that could successfully manage a long distance relationship, your sign, Aquarius would be the best at it. This is because those born under the sign of Aquarius in general, do not possess a strong need for emotional closeness and intimacy. Aquarians make much better friends than lovers in general so a long-distance relationship may work out fine. Aquarians also need intellectual stimulation so as long as there is some degree of communication between the two of you, the relationship has a chance of working out. Ultimately, the success of your relationship will depend upon each of your individual needs. If you or your partner require face to face contact or physical displays of affection on a regular basis then this relationship may be plagued with difficulties. If one or the both of you have issues with trust, there will also be challenges.
It's a good idea to initiate a discussion on what you both need in a relationship in order to feel fulfilled so that you will not be wasting each other's time.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
Dear Rahbinah,
I recently purchased my first home. The other day I met one of my new neighbors who kind of dampened my optimism. She told me that the neighborhood was basically going down hill and that I should be on guard for any suspicious activity. Now I am wondering if I made the right decision. What was once optimism has now turned into uncertainty and worry about my new neighborhood. Should I be concerned about what my neighbor told me?
DT, Lindenwold, New Jersey
Dear DT,
I would not worry about what my new neighbor told me if I were you. She may have just wanted to strike up a conversation or there may be an ulterior motive here such as envy (i.e. maybe she liked your house better than hers). Regardless, I would heed the neighbor's advice, putting it in the back of your mind while still maintaining your optimism. Buying your first home is a major accomplishment and a major milestone in your life so do not let negative comments kill your joy. Furthermore what is unbearable or distasteful for one person, may actually be acceptable or suitable for you. If you followed your gut feeling when buying the home, then this decision, most likely was a good one to make--even if your neighborhood is not as peaceful as Green Acres.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah
I recently purchased my first home. The other day I met one of my new neighbors who kind of dampened my optimism. She told me that the neighborhood was basically going down hill and that I should be on guard for any suspicious activity. Now I am wondering if I made the right decision. What was once optimism has now turned into uncertainty and worry about my new neighborhood. Should I be concerned about what my neighbor told me?
DT, Lindenwold, New Jersey
Dear DT,
I would not worry about what my new neighbor told me if I were you. She may have just wanted to strike up a conversation or there may be an ulterior motive here such as envy (i.e. maybe she liked your house better than hers). Regardless, I would heed the neighbor's advice, putting it in the back of your mind while still maintaining your optimism. Buying your first home is a major accomplishment and a major milestone in your life so do not let negative comments kill your joy. Furthermore what is unbearable or distasteful for one person, may actually be acceptable or suitable for you. If you followed your gut feeling when buying the home, then this decision, most likely was a good one to make--even if your neighborhood is not as peaceful as Green Acres.
Peace and Blessings,
Rahbinah